Not tonight: pain dulls a woman’s sexual appetite, but it doesn’t affect men

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It’s taken an army of mice (and a group of clever Canadian researchers) to crack open an old sexual chestnut and get at the meat inside: For women, “Not tonight dear, I have a headache” is not a passive-aggressive rebuff to a mate’s sexual invitation (not always, at least). It’s a biological phenomenon with deep evolutionary roots.

Even for females who’ve never watched a 1950s movie or been schooled in the art of sexual gamesmanship, bodily pain puts a serious damper on sexual desire, new research has revealed. And pain reduction can help restore libido squelched by physical discomfort (which suggests that fetching an analgesic and a glass of water might be a better strategy than sulking or wheedling).

In the new study, the libido-busting effect of pain was not seen in male mice, who sought to mate with females whether or not the males (or their potential female partners) were in pain. Pain made a female mouse significantly less receptive to mating irrespective of where the hurt was: in the cheek, tail, hind legs or genitals.

For males, even a pain in the penis did not dampen the urge to have sex.
Over eons and across species, that gender-specific response to pain has likely served to reduce reproduction under circumstances that are less-than-ideal for a potential offspring’s survival. A mother in pain, after all, is a mother whose full attention and physical strength may not be available to nurture her babies and protect them from predators. Males were less likely to be tending a brood and more likely to be off looking for another chance to spread their genetic material. So standing down for physical pain would have served no evolutionary purpose.

The study, published Tuesday in the Journal of Neuroscience, gleaned these insights by gauging the responses of sexually compatible pairs of mice to injections of agents that are known to induce inflammation in rodents — the food additive carrageenan and zymosan.

In some pairs, the female got the hurt-shot; in other pairs, it was the male. To rule out the possibility that mating was disrupted by specific discomforts — a hurting rear paw or a pain in the genitals, for instance — the researchers injected the pain-inducing shots in a number of different bodily sites. They chemically ensured that the female mice would be sexually appealing to male mice. And then, they left the pairs of mice in a cage that would let the smaller female mouse stay and mate with the male or withdraw to an adjoining room to be by herself.

Once they established that females in pain were far more likely to mate than those without pain, the researchers set about exploring what, if anything, helped. To some female mice, they administered the analgesic pregabalin, a drug for chronic nerve pain better known by its commercial name, Lyrica. To others, they administered “pro-sexual” agents — apomorphine and melanotan-2 — known to rev up sexual behavior in rodents (although not, reliably, in human females).

The Lyrica was no aphrodisiac. It didn’t promote an increase in sexual activity among female mice that were not in pain. But among those who were, it not only killed the pain, it also reversed the libido-killing effect of that pain. The two rodent aphrodisiacs also made females in pain more receptive to males, leading researchers to suggest that, for those looking to develop and test an effective “pink Viagra,” a good test of effectiveness might be how well it restores libido in women with chronic pain.
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Let your feelings out to boost your sex life!

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Just letting your feelings out without ambivalence may be a major booster to your sex life, a study has found. ‘The more ambivalent you are, the less you are able to communicate your emotions satisfactorily, and the more you are likely to be uncomfortable with your partner,’ said Nayla Awada, a doctoral candidate in psychology at the Universite de Montreal in Canada.

Couples who regulate their emotions together in a satisfactory manner are more fulfilled sexually, psychologically, and relationally, said the study. This holds true even among couples in which the woman has provoked vestibulodynia (PVD), also known as ‘vulvar vestibulitis’, Awada discovered. For the research, Awada studied 254 couples in which the woman was diagnosed
with PVD.

PVD is characterized by burning sensation felt on the ‘vestibule’, or entrance of the vagina. ‘Ambivalence of both partners is related to greater emotional distress and more sexual and relational difficulties in the couples,’ said the researcher.

Source: The health Site


Scared of sexual intercourse? Don’t be!

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Petrified at the idea of committing yourself sexually? It’s time to get rid of the “sex fears” and “sex blues” and enjoy the most natural act made by God. Fears of premature ejaculation, a traumatic incident in the past or hesitation towards sex, may be the reason why one fears sexual contact. Shove aside fear of sex, read MedGuru ways for overcoming the fears and spice up your sex life:

No Delay in sexual intercourse
Delaying having sex for a long time can result in an unnatural fear of the act. As time passes the anxiety levels start to pile up and the fear feelings become a natural part of life. Anxiety is a negative emotion that is not productive. It pushes one away from sex and dating the opposite sex. We at MedGuru attempt to make the fear of sex rush away and let the natural course of enjoyment take over.

Cope up with the lack of sexual knowledge

Face the matter of sex, maturely with a positive stance as it has to creep up in life one day or the other. Get prepared mentally for sexual intercourse and believe that the sexual activity will be a positive experience for sure. To make things easier and learn more about the issue you can grab a few books on fun tips for sex and sex education. You can also get prepared by reading medical facts on the issue on the internet.

Stay away from pornography

One needs to approach sexuality with maturity and not by watching pornographic material. Pornography offers a sex version that is extremely unrealistic and will scare one off the real thing. It’s the sex education books that can help or there is one innovative app like the “Explore Women’s Sex” etc. This highlights the details of the anatomy of a female, and similar apps on males are also available. Take it easy and look through carefully, there is no need to learn each detail the same day, pick up a single step at a time and then begin the process or you will end up overwhelming yourself.

Choose a caring partner

Tenderness and emotion is what a human being is about. Having a sexual relation with a person who is tender will reduce the anxiety pangs and give a boost to the confidence. Having a sexual relationship with a caring partner will make the sexual journey more enjoyable as both the partners will be bothered about each other’s needs during the act. Your partner should appreciate that this is your first experience and learn how to take you on the sex path with patience and make it special for you.

Understand that sex is a special connection

Sex is an intimate act that transports both the partners onto an altogether different level. One connects to one’s partner on an emotional, mental and a physical level. It’s the ultimate way of communicating with your partner and the most distressing and relaxing activity that the partners undertake. Tell your partner your fears and share with him or her the right way to deal with it. A loving partner will surely reassure you and lead you on into the act carefully and with love. Ask your partner the preferences and the right way to move on. Understanding the needs of the partner makes the act more enjoyable.

Leave your body insecurities aside

Do not have any insecurity regarding your own body. Remember that your partner may be sharing the same fears and will be behaving strangely because of this. Don’t be too hard on your self esteem by focusing on the flaws. It’s better to think about the connectivity you are going to experience. The most important fact is that the two partners are soon going to be bound together permanently in an emotional bondage. Just go ahead and feel sexy for your partner.

Make the ideal atmosphere

Spread some aromatic flowers on the bed and light a few candles to make the ambiance better. Change the sheets for some soft and satiny ones. It’s the fantasizing that is going to get you through the glorious act so why not fan your imagination by the low soft music and the subtle candle light.

Don’t hurry the act

Now hang on, a sexual encounter is not only penetration. It involves tender and exciting foreplay for a while. Then let the emotions rule and follow the commands of your heart. You can try a sexy massage, some warm hugs, kisses, fondling your partner and then finally get ready for the total commitment act.

Lastly breathe away dollops of air. Remember it’s the breathing that is going to relax your insides and just go with the flow of the moment. Go ahead, give it a try and act out your turbulent sexy emotions.

Source: the medguru